Friday, January 30, 2009

Adopting a Child With HIV

This article is on the Rainbow Kids website

Adopting a Child with HIV
Surprising Insights
January 01,2009 / Bethany

Adopting a baby or child with HIV is becoming increasingly popular as potential adoptive parents are gaining more knowledge about the virus, and finding that it is one of the most easily managed of all special needs. Children with HIV are exactly the same as all other children with the addition of daily medication to keep their immune systems operating normally, and quarterly doctors' visits to check their blood which ensures the medications are working properly. In every other way, these kids are normal, healthy, intelligent kids, and they lead regular lifestyles including camps, sleepovers and athletics.

You may be surprised to find out that children with HIV have close to normal life expectancy due to the excellent treatments that are currently available in the developed world. All of the tragic stories that we hear about children dying of AIDS are due to lack of medication in underdeveloped countries, although antiretroviral treatments are thankfully now becoming more widely available to impoverished nations. Treatment is so good now that people who are diligent about their meds are now living to old age without their HIV progressing to AIDS, and they are giving birth to healthy children.

The first question many potential adoptive parents have is often regarding transmission as they are nervous that a child with pediatric HIV might be contagious' to others. The reason these unfounded fears exist, is due to misinformation spread in the 1980s before medical professionals knew the facts about HIV transmission. Fortunately, now we know that HIV is not transmitted in a household or educational setting. The truth is that HIV is a part of our society and we all associate with people who have HIV, even though we may not know it. For example, HIV positive children are in schools and daycares with HIV negative children, and adults with HIV are preparing and serving food in supermarkets and restaurants. If this idea frightens you, it shouldn't, because HIV is not transmitted in any casual way. You cannot get HIV from sharing food and drinks, sharing a bathtub or pool, changing a diaper, hugging and kissing, or sharing a bed or toilet. You can get HIV through unprotected sex and intravenously by sharing needles. The only other way HIV is transmitted is from mother to child, which is how millions of orphans have innocently contracted the virus.

Children with HIV can be adopted from the United States, Ethiopia, Russia, Ukraine, Thailand, Haiti, India, Latvia, China, Ghana, Estonia and other countries. Beautiful, sweet, healthy HIV+ children of all ages are waiting for loving families. Adoption fees are often reduced making this an affordable option. Your existing health insurance covers adopted children regardless of pre-existing conditions, exactly the same as biological children. HIV is no longer considered a terminal illness, but rather a chronic yet manageable condition and health care professionals now consider it easier to maintain than other long term conditions, such as diabetes. The only reason these facts are not widely known is due to the stigma that unfortunately still surrounds HIV. Almost any parent raising a child with HIV will tell you that disclosure is the biggest issue they have not health, not transmission, but disclosing their child's HIV status. Fortunately, there are strict laws protecting people with HIV and disclosure is entirely optional. You are not required to tell the school, church, coaches, neighbors or anyone else.

There are many orphaned children listed with adoption agencies. Others may be found by logging into your account on the RainbowKids.com Waiting Child area. An excellent source of information and waiting children links can be found at PositivelyOrphaned.com www.PositivelyOrphaned.com

Sam and Esther

I was visiting the blog for Grace Giving International http://www.gracegivinginternational.org/369324.ihtml#h_7454 and came across this YouTube video. Wow. If you would like to know more about sponsoring children like Sam and Esther, please contact Patrick at patrick@gracegivinginternational.org


Wednesday, January 28, 2009

My Word

Your Word is "Peace"
You see life as precious, and you wish everyone was safe, happy, and taken care of.
Social justice, human rights, and peace for all nations are all important to you.

While you can't stop war, you try to be as calm and compassionate as possible in your everyday life.
You promote harmony and cooperation. You're always willing to meet someone a little more than halfway.

Cute pic for the day


Tuesday, January 27, 2009

Celebrating Nathan


Wednesday we landed in San Antonio with Nathan's uncle and cousins, who also happen to be our really good friends AND go to our church which makes them church family. His mom, sister, mom's boyfriend and his dad and Nathan's niece were all on the same plane too. It was so exciting!

After we got settled in our rooms we all went to the Texas Roadhouse which was pretty yummy. I had ribs, a yam, and green beans. I think mine was the best, but I don't really know, it just looked the best. :-) Their homemade warm rolls were a feast for the palate too.

Thursday was the run-by. The trainees run by in formation while the spectators (their family and friends) are lined up on on both sides of the road cheering them on. As we walked up I couldn't believe that we saw Nathan. We had no idea it was really him until it was too late. Then we were so excited. WE SAW NATHAN!!! I felt like I was in the Nathan fan club. They ran by again a little later in full Air Force sweat suits. After the run-by the trainees go back to their bunks and us spectators have time to kill. We went to the mini-mall on base and filled our bellies on Subway and Starbucks. We hung out and visited until it was time for orientation and we headed over there. They told us civilians all the do's and don'ts that we were to follow. We then headed over to the bleachers to get seats for the Coin ceremony. This is where their drill instructors present each member of their individual flights a coin representing their transition from trainee to Airman. Nathan was in the 324th Flight. We had perfect seats and he was in the perfect spot for us to see him.

Sarah waiting. See how happy she is?Nathan had just received his coin. He is the third one down.In formation at the coin ceremony.
We're so proud of him!!!! He had base liberty so we ate at Godfather's pizza. He was lovin' it! Graduation on Friday
Airman graduate Sarah and her Airman He's going to work on F-16's so we had him stand next to one.
After the graduation he had base liberty until 2pm and then town liberty until 7pm. We took him to Outback Steakhouse and then had him back early. Saturday he had town liberty all day so we picked him up and went to IHOP where we waited over an hour for a seat. After IHOP we headed to The Alamo and The River Walk.

My amazing daughter.
Nathan & Sarah
Me & Sarah
Lovebirds
Nathan
Me
Us at the Alamo











Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Leaving for Texas!


Sarah and I fly to San Antonio today. Nathan graduates from boot camp on Friday and we want to celebrate with him! They are so looking forward to seeing one another after nine weeks apart.

My little kitchen helper


I was making Cinnamon muffins and Adah insisted on helping me.

Sunday, January 18, 2009

Amharic Names

On Amharic Kids they featured a site where you can write your child's name in Amharic. http://www.amharicmachine.com/

Adah Derartu
Anna Mihret Abi Mulu
Addis Rose



Saturday, January 17, 2009

Acacia Village

From the CWA website:
Acacia Village is a brand new humanitarian aid project launched by Christian World Foundation at the beginning of 2008. Acacia Village is named after the acacia tree which is found all over Africa. It is known as a tree that shelters and protects. Now, with Acacia Village, CWF will be a sheltering and protecting presence for needy children in Ethiopia.
http://www.acaciavillage.org/
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Steve and I were able to visit Acacia Village while we were picking up Addis & Mulu in April 2008. While driving there we found out that it is in Sebeta where Adah Derartu is from.

On the left is our driver, the man on the right was the judge who signed the adoption papers for Adah Derartu and Anna Mihret, he is now in charge of the Acacia Village project in Ethiopia.
Thursday night we went to our friends home that we traveled home from Ethiopia with. They had a fundraising dinner for Acacia Village, and she is competing in the Ironman competition in November. We met Louis Fawcett who is the Director of Development. Janus (http://www.janus.com/) is willing to donate an additional $10,000 if she is one of the top fundraisers. http://www.januscharitychallenge.com/site/c.egLOIYOGKtF/b.591535/k.4568/Program_Overview_and_Requirements.htm

Louis Fawcett and us. We listened to a short presentation and watched a short DVD. They had a GREAT idea for fundraising and I immediately fell in love with the whole idea. Coin boxes. They're little cardboard box banks. They're small enough that kids can help and who doesn't have pennies around? A penny for an orphan? Anyone can spare that. There are said to be 4.6 million orphans in Ethiopia alone. They need $4 million to build Acacia Village.

You can help! Kristen has until Oct/Nov to raise money. Ask me for a box if you see me. or you can make a secure online donation to Acacia Village today. All gifts are fully tax-deductible. Just make sure it goes under the name Kristen Hench (in honor of Iron Man) so she gets credit for it and maybe she'll be one of the top fundraisers and Janus will donate an extra $10K.
Donate Now »

The Grieshaber and Hench family:

They want to take this piece of land: There is an Acacia tree behind me, but it's hard to see.and make this:

http://www.acaciavillage.org/village.htm

Whatever you can do will go to Acacia Village to help build this amazing complex for the people of Ethiopia.

Can you spare a penny?


Thursday, January 15, 2009

The Words We Say

I had read this in the Daily Bread for Jan. 5. 'That speaks clearly to us of the importance of what we say to others. It also backs up one of my favorite lines by poet Emily Dickinson: "A word is dead when it is said, some say. I say it just begins to live that day."

The words we say may have long-term consequences. Our comments, our compliments, and even our harsh criticisms may stick with the hearer for decades.

No wonder Scripture says, "He who restrains his lips is wise" (Prov. 10:19). The words we speak live on. Let's make sure they come from "the tongue of the righteous: (v20)-Dave Brannon'
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So last week at Class Day I needed to use the restroom and as I was walking back one of the ladies I've known from Above Rubies and Class Day came up to me and thanked me. She said, "I just wanted to thank you. Many years ago I had miscarried, I had cut off my hair, and I came to Class Day. You were the only one who asked me if everything was okay, and I told you what happened. Everyone else was telling me it was okay. You were the only one who told me it wasn't okay. It wasn't okay that I lost this baby. It wasn't until you told me that, that I gave myself permission to cry and grieve for the baby I lost."

WOW.............

I don't even remember that incident. I remember her being there and finding out that she would never have children again. I remember her devastation. I remember that she only had two children and desperately wanted more children only to be told that it wouldn't happen from her own body. I don't remember what I said to her only that I knew I couldn't help her other than just be a sounding board. Apparently God used me to speak what she needed to hear.

Many years ago I miscarried. I've miscarried six times, but the one of the two that hit the hardest was between Sarah and Joe. I had heard and seen the heartbeat. The baby was about 12 weeks and just poof, gone. My friend Helen used to tell me that never was a mother so vulnerable as when she was pregnant because there was no guarantee of a baby at the end. While I was in the hospital having a D&C or whatever I did, I honestly don't remember, I was crying and grieving. The nurses didn't understand since I already had four children at home. I remember telling them, "I'm losing THIS baby! I will never have THIS baby again!" To shut me up they medicated me and sent me to la-la land. It turns out I hemorraged six weeks later and almost died because the dr. did such a bad job, but that is really irrelevant to this post.

Back to our words. Use your words to lift up, give advice, encourage, compliment. But USE YOUR WORDS!!!! Be there for other people. You have to be among people to be there. Don't isolate yourself and no being on the computer doesn't count. You have to be among the people. Give hugs and a smile. You never know what you can do for someone and you never know what blessing God has in store for you from someone else.

Wednesday, January 14, 2009

Chicken Noodle Casserole

I had some leftover chicken from the night before and not a whole lot of time to come up with something to make. I found a recipe and tweaked it to our liking. This is my version.

Chicken Noodle Casserole

12 ounces cooked and drained egg noodles
12 Tablespoons butter
12 Tablespoons flour
2 cups chicken broth or 2 cups water and 2 chicken bouillon cubes
2 cups milk
1 Tablespoon salt
1 teaspoon pepper
4 cups cooked diced chicken
1 cup Parmesan cheese plus some for the top of casserole


Preheat oven to 350*

Grease a 13x9 pan. (I didn't and I was fine)

In large skillet over low heat melt butter. Blend in flour stirring until smooth and bubbly. Gradually add chicken broth, milk, and salt & pepper. Stir constantly until sauce is thickened. Stir in chicken, parmesan cheese and the cooked noodles. Spoon the mixture into a baking dish. Sprinkle some parmesan cheese over the top. Bake for 2-25 minutes.

Serves 16. (actually it fed our family for one meal and a little bowl leftover)

Library store

We had less than an hour during piano lessons. I really didn't have any errands to run other than going to the grocery store and Starbucks after we picked up Joel & Sarah. I decided to head towards the Santee library and visit their Friends of the Santee Library bookstore. Outside we found some Mary Kate & Ashley videos (the girls have NO idea who they are), Flipper, and some other kid videos for $.50.

Inside we headed to the children's section and My Side of the Mountain for $.25. I'll pass that on to one of the boys in our class who might want a copy. Addis, Abi and John each picked out books from the shelves. I found a book on Helen Keller that would make good reading for the younger class and a book on slavery told from some slaves perspective.

I browsed the Religion section and found a family devotional book and two copies of The Christian Family by Larry Christenson for $.50 each. Goldmine! I already have a copy so I knew what treasures lay between the covers.

Browsing through it today I found this on the role of wives.

In a Man Called Peter, Catherine Marshall tells how her late husband tended to put women on a pedestal. She quotes the following from one of his sermons: "Modern girls argue that they have to earn an income, in order to establish a home, which would be impossible on their husband's income. That is sometimes the case, but it must always be viewed as a regrettable necessity, never as the normal or natural thing for a wife to have to do. The average woman, if she gives her full time to her home, her husband, her children...If she tries to understand her husband's work...to curb his egotism while, at the same time, building up his self-esteem, to kill his masculine conceit while encouraging all his hopes, to establish around the family a circle of true friends... If she provides in the home a proper atmosphere of culture, of love of music, of beautiful furniture and of a garden...If she can do all this, she will be engaged in a life work that will demand every ounce of her strength, every bit of her patience, every talent God has given her, the utmost sacrifice of her love. It will demand everything she has and more. And she will find that for which she was created. She will know that she is carrying out the plan of God. She will be a partner with the Sovereign Ruler of the universe."

All I can add is, Amen!

Thursday, January 8, 2009

Back to the routine

Our Christmas break is over and our life continues as normal. We started back to school on Monday. Books were all over the table, lesson plan notebooks were cracked open to see what needed to accomplished for the day, pencils were everywhere, children in chairs and wandering around, and I was in the midst of it all.

Life in our household before noon is quite chaotic. The toddlers are up and roaming around. Math questions are being protested, worked and reworked, cereal bowls wait for someone to wash them, laundry beckons from the laundry room, boys are told, "Get back on task!" Our home is bustling and loud. Sometimes it seems too much, having eight children ages 13-2, especially the two 2 year olds. (they're very demanding-most little princesses are) Other times, especially if "school" isn't involved I wouldn't have it any other way. Do you know how wonderful it would be to have a teacher come to MY house, gather the learners and teach them ALL the time? Oh my! Just thinking about it makes me giddy. Unfortunately they have to settle for me and I have to settle for knowing that I'm not teaching them nearly everything they need to know, but I'm teaching them enough and I'm teaching them how to learn, which is enough.

Cubbies started again last night after a two week break. That age is so precious. I think you have to be older and have gone through all the ages and stages to really appreciate 3 and 4 year olds. They are just wonderful creatures.

Today is Class Day. We'll finish My Side of the Mountain and start John Newton: the Angry Sailor for the older kids and start Baby Island for the younger kids.

We got bad news last night that Nathan's bootcamp graduation is postponed for a week. He and Sarah were so looking forward to seeing one another sooner. I told her we could drive by the fence while he's running so they could see each other. She didn't think I was funny. Now we're changing all our reservations. Fun.

Soccer continues for Joe. His All-Star tournamet is this weekend and the next. Jake turns 24 this week and heads to Hawaii to get married again. They were originally going to get married in Hawaii, but did a quick ceremony this summer. This is the official "big" wedding. They're the only ones going though. Really, they are the only ones that NEED to be there. :-) Jared and Miranda head off to Cancun soon.

Hope you're all having a great New Year!

Monday, January 5, 2009

Pics too cute not to post

Adah in all her glory.
Is she hysterical or what?
We just took her hair out of her braids and POOF!
Little love girl
She's so adorable Princess Anna Anna doing hair. Notice the apron? :-)







How to make the rag quilts

My friend Shenna taught me how to make a rag quilt last year. You can find that post here. http://blessedfamilyblog.blogspot.com/2007/10/my-rag-quilt-is-done.html I love my rag quilt. When it's cold enough I sleep with it every night.

It's hard to explain in a short amount of time how to make these, but I will give you tips on what I did for mine. I like mine to have 8x8 squares when I'm done, so I start with 10x10 squares. I tried to pick eight different patterns and bought about a yard and a half of each giving me twelve yards. For Miranda's I only had five different patterns, but figured out my pattern kind of by accident. I had bought a green that really didn't go with it once we had it laid out.

Steps.

1. Buy your FLANNEL fabric. At Joanne's you can find fabric at $2.50 a yard when there is a sale. On some of my quilts the fabric was almost $8.00 a yard. Yeah. Spendy.

2. Buy some warm and natural batting for the middle of your squares. Your batting will be cut into 7 1/2 x 7 1/2 squares. You will need 63 squares of batting and 63 squares of fabric. (If you're making them the size I made them.)

3. DO NOT WASH YOUR FABRIC. I repeat DO NOT WASH YOUR FABRIC. Did you hear me? :-) You are going to cut your fabric. It helps if you have a rotary cutter and some quilting cutting tools. (You can tell I'm a real professional here.)

I used this as a refresher course and an idea for the primary block rag quilt. http://jenyu.net/pj/stuff/ragquilt/

4. Cut your batting with your scissors. I thought it was easier.

5. Take all your cut-up squares to a large area and lay them out according to how you want your quilt to look. There will be seven squares across and nine down, giving you 63 squares. Ask for help from someone to see if there is anything you should change. (You can do the back in either one color, the same as the front, or the same fabrics as the front but in a completely different pattern.)

6. Gather them up by rows and number them so you don't lose where you're at later. You're going to label the first row with a 1 and then the next six across under it. Then place the 2 on the first one in the second row and place that whole row under the first row. You'll have a stack of squares when you're done.

7. Take the first square and a square of batting. Place the batting in the square and you're going to sew an X from corner to corner, and then corner to corner. Stack however you're going to be able to keep track of where you're at. I turned the first one over and stacked the second one on it, and then when I was done I turn the whole stack over.

8. Then you're going to sew the first square to the second square, with the seams up and the third square onto the second square and so on until you have seven squares. Lay each row in order so you don't lose your place. Easy to lose track. Trust me. :-)

9. Then you will take row 1 and sew it to row 2. I use pins at this point to help keep my seams somewhat straight, although as much as I would try they weren't always lined up. Remember all your seams are on top. Sew until all nine rows are attached.

10. Sew a one inch seam around the whole quilt.

11. Start cutting. Take special care not to cut too close which is really easy to do with those little sharp scissors. Sarah cut too close on one of ours that we made and I spent more time fixing it than the time I originally spent sewing it. And make sure you are cutting your outside seams all the same way. It's hard to explain, but you want your outside seam to be cut the direction of where you're at. You should be able to cut straight on.

12. Once cut wash in normal and dry in normal. Make sure you have a really good machine or take it to the laundry mat. Our washer got plugged up after washing four of these. It gets really linty in the dryer too.

13. After you take it out of the dryer, take it outside and shake all the loose lint off. Then get a lint roller and roll off what you can and at the same time check for any holes, especially where all the seams come together.

One idea I had was to go on ebay and check out the ones people were making to sell. I copied and saved the pics to my computer so that I had some ideas for other quilts I might want to make.

I hope that answered some questions. Google in Rag Quilts and you should be able to come up with a wealth of info. Happy sewing!

Thursday, January 1, 2009

Christmas pics

No words needed.
Rockin' out
Addis opening her first Christmas present Joel with his new air hockey table
Sarah playing with him in her new top
Adah rockin' out Me & Sarah playing Guitar Hero-I scored 91% while singing Living on a Prayer by Bon Jovi, thank you very much. Never mind that it was on easy. Sarah
Steve playing the Wii
Abi and her new doo
Abi opening her first present on Christmas. Never mind the hair.Anna Mihret and Sarah on Christmas Eve
Addis, Adah & Anna on Christmas Eve
Steve and our niece Ashley
Steve's mom and our nephew Josh
My kids and Simon-I tell him he's my son from another mother :)
Jake being Jake
Here we were getting ready. See Jesse's pose? Some are just born ready.
Our Christmas picture. Thanks Rachel!